How to Debunk the Red Pill Idea That It’s Okay for Men to Cheat on Their Spouses
Many red pill online videos support and normalize men cheating on their wives or girlfriends. Word on the YouTube streets is that a man can jump from one bed to another with side chicks and still love his main chick the same, but not the other way around. If the woman dares to cheat, the relationship is a wrap.
The fault in this type of thinking resembles the current conflict between Israel and Palestine. On October 7th, Hamas ambushed Israel, killed hundreds of people, including children, and took hostages. When Israel retaliated with full force, Palestine supporters started crying out about genocide as if the Israel Defense Force (IDF) had attacked first.
The concept here is simple: Don’t dish out what you can’t take. This principle applies in relationships, too. If a man commits infidelity and somehow his woman finds out, his heart shouldn’t be torn apart when she pretends to have forgiven him only to sleep with someone else later in the relationship.
I DON’T support the notion that women who’ve been cheated on should orchestrate a painful revenge in return. After all, two wrongs don’t make a right. I’m saying that the minute you betray your partner, you lose the right to go crazy when she does the same to you.
An Eye for an Eye and Tooth for a Tooth?
I believe loyalty is the lifeblood of any functional romantic relationship. It is the oxygen that keeps sparks alive between couples. Without it, your relationship is dead.
It’s reasonable, therefore, to conclude that no one forgives cheating. Your relationship ends when you remove your clothes and climb a bed with someone other than your partner, even if it happened ten years ago and you were never caught. Somehow, the truth always comes to light eventually.
The day she finds out you smashed your secretary, one of her best friends, or the easy blue-haired bartender in your favorite nightclub, you will confirm that unfaithfulness is the capital sin that no relationship can go past.
One of two things will happen when the beans are spilled: She’ll either leave or plot to give you a taste of your own medicine. As all men know, the latter is an arrow to the heart, especially if she messes around with someone close.
Do Unto Your Partner As You Would Have Her Do Unto You
True story: I know an Uber driver who slept around with women in his car. This guy thought he was playing safe and was too careful to be caught. Mind you, his wife later found an opened packet of condoms in a hidden glove compartment in the vehicle.
She cried rivers of tears, lamenting how her husband had betrayed her trust and that she had no strength to move on with the marriage. The husband, as most men do when caught, promised to change and that even though he had stepped out of the relationship, his love for her was still rock-solid. That’s how he convinced her to stay.
As I already mentioned, no one truly forgives cheating. Five years forward into the relationship, the husband found a deleted conversation in her wife’s phone inside the Messages App trash folder. She had sent Maurice (the couple’s marriage counselor, churchmate, and close family friend) a text that read and I quote, “Your child is fine. I’ll bring her to our usual spot this Sunday after church.”
Alas! The husband realized that, for several years, his wife had been sharing her body with one of the people he trusted the most. As if that was not enough, the three-year-old second-born child, who he thought was his, belonged to another man. As expected, the wife played the you-cheated-first card when he furiously confronted her.
While nothing justifies any form of cheating, the Uber driver can’t really blame his wife for the aftermath, yet he started the fire himself. Therefore the consequences shouldn’t be a bitter pill to swallow.
If the idea of your wife or girlfriend cheating on you is extremely painful and unbearable, what has to break inside your mind to think it’s okay to do to her what you wouldn’t even want to dream of her doing to you?
